Mailbag: On a Heater
Vegas, baby.
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How is Parks’ baseball season going? Are you enjoying coaching? Need more little league content. -Drew
I actually wasn’t added as an official assistant coach because those spots were all full, but I get to help out with practices, which has been a lot of fun for me.
They’re 3-0 and destroying teams. Parks isn’t hitting the ball like I know he can. He’ll spray it all over the yard with me during BP but he’s swinging and missing in games. He needs something good to happen to get his confidence up. He’s flashed the leather a few times, however.
Most importantly, though, he’s having fun. As his dad, that’s what I really care about.
Thanks for answering and doing mailbag!
Is it trash to go to an all inclusive resort in Mexico vs. a normal hotel? My friends are planning a couples trip for us this summer - we are 30 years old. An all inclusive is a pro for them and a major con for me. Please weigh in. Thank you!
All-inclusive resorts need a new PR team, I swear. There’s a stigma surrounding all-inclusive resorts and I won’t stand for it. Maybe the ones of 15-20 years ago used to be hokey with poor service, watered-down cocktails, and bad food, but they’ve come a long way.
I know this sounds weird but I stand by it: I had one of the best Italian meals I’ve ever had at an all-inclusive in Playa Del Carmen. It was insane.
Plus, there’s a real sense of peace knowing you paid for the entire trip upfront and aren’t paying resort prices for food and drinks on the backend.
You should go without hesitation.
Dillon,
This email is about business. How many times can you have sex with a friend before you can no longer be just friends?
Please don’t identify me
Thanks King. -Anonymous
One, maybe? Every situation is different, obviously, but for some, once you cross that threshold from no sex to sex, that friendship is instantly on thin ice.
It’s certainly possible to recover after an alcohol-influenced one-night-stand situation with a friend, but do you think of your friend the same way after you see each other naked? It changes the dynamic, right? Even if it’s just a little bit. Friendships can still last, but they’re different.
The good news is the further removed from the sex, the easier it is to put that phase behind you and resume the friendship.
The more times you have sex, the harder it is to keep feelings from entering the picture. And if it goes on long enough, feelings are inevitable. If you value the friendship, don’t let sex enter the picture. If you want more than a friendship, by all means, go for it. Just stay mindful that this comes at the risk of losing a friend.
Did you ever hit 90 mph on the bump? Be Real. -Servando
Absolutely not. I always had a strong arm so I pitched a lot when I was young. When I was about 13, though, I shredded my shoulder pitching. It hurt so damn bad. Like stopped the game and walked off the field holding my arm, kind of bad. I don’t know what the exact injury was, but it was serious.
For the next three months I couldn’t throw a baseball even 30 feet. That was mostly the end of my pitching. I pitched a little bit my freshman year of high school but the velocity never reached full potential. I probably maxed out around 83 to 85. I played outfield and was designated hitter most of varsity baseball.
Hello Dillon. My ex coworker moonlighted as a lady of the night on the side. And apparently also does onlyfans.
She was always flirtatious and friendly when we chatted, plus she is pretty good looking all things considered. Things to consider being she slept around with a few people at work (there’s about 80 people in total on my shift so not like a small office situation), but still. One guy she did things with is into some really freaky shit, and is just generally an off putting individual. It’s also rumored she may have some sort of std.
All this being said.. I still think of her every so often and was wondering if I should peruse her/her services? And how do I go about it if you think it’s a decent idea? A Facebook add then message? I feel like getting her number from a coworker after she’s been gone for 2 months may come off weird when I text her.
She was a lot of fun to talk to and be around, and fun to look at of course. I’m also a virgin so I’d like to get some practice in. But I also don’t want to get an std.
Any tips or advice on how to approach the situation would be greatly appreciated. Thanks big dawg! -Anonymous
Now here’s a Mailbag question.
It’s unclear if you want to pursue her in the traditional sense, or if you only want to pay for her services. If it’s the former, I’m not going to tell you not to go for it. And if it is the former, obviously don’t bring up the pay-to-play angle. Don’t combine the two because I can’t imagine that going well. If she seems like someone you could see yourself with, give it a shot.
I have a personal rule: I would never pay for sex. I’m not saying you should adhere to the same rule, but that’s my stance. No judgment for those who feel the need to pay for it, but it’s not for me. To lose your virginity this way seems pretty loco, but if you’re having a tough time getting laid and you feel it’s holding you back and adding to your anxiety, I could understand the temptation here.
Don’t do it, though, dude. You’ll most likely have instant regret.
P.S. Don’t believe office rumors like that. It’s always smart to have the STD talk before sleeping with someone, though. Or get tested. Or use a condom. Or all of the above.
Are there any sponsors that you regret for any reason? -Tom
In all honesty, I’ve liked all of our sponsors. I like some more than others and definitely have my favorites, but there’s not a single sponsor I regret.
We did one single ad read for Black Buffalo a long time ago, which is a “chewing tobacco alternative.” It seemed fine to me at the time but there were a few very vocal listeners who were not pleased with us. They basically said we were irresponsible for endorsing a tobacco product, even though we pitched it as a product that was useful for weaning yourself off the habit.
Anyway, we canceled the campaign after that one read. The people spoke, and we listened.
Dorn,
Going to Vegas for the first time this weekend for a combined bachelor/bachelorette party (I know). Give me your two top Vegas tips, other than seeing particular Cosmo bartender.
GOGS. -Patrick
Man, I love Vegas. I turned 21 standing in the Mirage casino and visited the city 12 more times over the next decade. I’ve had two (2) bachelor parties there. I’ve played golf, I’ve won money, I’ve lost money, I’ve played in poker tournaments, I’ve seen shows, I’ve been to the Rhino, and I’ve walked up and down the strip countless times. Vegas speaks to me.
I should share the caveat that I am not a Vegas club guy, however. I was dragged to a club a couple times in Vegas and did not enjoy it. In Vegas, I like to gamble at the tables, spend some time in sportsbooks, and eat good food.
You want two tips?
(1) Take cash with you and leave your bank card in the hotel room. Or better yet, home.
(2) Learn the basics of craps. There isn’t a more exhilarating time on a casino floor than when you’re on a craps heater.
If you've been to a good all-inclusive its tough to go back to the alternative. Still keep a wad of cash around for tips but not having to bust out a card every round of drinks or at a meal is clutch. You want to try every appetizer on the menu? DO IT. Want to surprise your friends with pool shots that only half of you take? Go for it who cares.