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Hey Dillon,
Listening to old Listener Voicemail episodes got me wondering; is there any update on your family's hunting lodge in Mexico that was taken over by the cartels?
Some background is necessary here. My stepdad owned (owns?) a hunting lodge just across the Texas-Mexico border on the Mexico side. It’s close to Falcon Lake in a tiny town called Nueva Ciudad Guerrero. It was nice, too. Five bedrooms, pool, hot tub, pool table. It was a really fun place to spend a weekend and hunt dove or quail. The dove hunting was actually insane.
When the drug cartel crisis got really bad and border towns became unsafe, we all stayed away from the house until things calmed down. Well, that was about 15 years ago and we haven’t been back since. According to some locals that my stepfather employed, cartels took over the house and made it their own.
It’s long gone. Too dangerous to even drive down and see what’s what.
Hey Dorn,
LT;FT. Question is: How much do you and the other fellas (minus Brett) contribute to meetings and such when Brett is drumming up new business/sponsors? Is there a set time in the process that y’all are brought in to meet the other parties, or does Brett take the wheel through it all?
Big fan. Keep on keeping on.
Brett has been in his role since fall of 2019, and the training wheels came off a long time ago. He’s had full autonomy for a long while. On occasion, there will be times when a potential sponsor will want to speak with or meet us after there’s a mutual vetting process. Brett and Will just went to Vegas for this reason, actually.
For the most part, though, we just let Brett do his thing and trust that he’s representing Washed in the best way possible.
Sup Dillon,
The other day my mom made an unnecessary joke about my girlfriend (mostly harmless) so I called her out and asked if she didn't like her. Her response was "it's not that I don't like her, it's just that I don't think you two are meant for each other". We've been dating for six years and I am 30 years old. How much stock should I put in this sudden admittance from my own mother? I have plans to marry this girl!
This one is tough. At six years in, Mom probably should have let her feelings be known much sooner than this, unless of course something recently happened that caused her to sour on your girlfriend.
I hate to say you should probably weigh your mom’s opinion pretty heavily when making future plans with your girlfriend, but you should probably weigh your mom’s opinion pretty heavily when making future plans with your girlfriend.
Mom has experience. Mom has seen some shit. Lived through some shit. If she thinks you two aren’t compatible, there’s probably some very sound reasoning behind it.
Should your mom’s opinion be the sole reason you break up with your girlfriend? No, I’m not saying that. But I think it’s definitely worthwhile to talk to your mom one-on-one and get to the bottom of why she feels this way. Sometimes it takes an outside perspective to help you see things clearly, and your mother can be a great resource here. She wants what’s best for you and is going to shoot you straight.
As someone with a kid, what's one vacation you wish you could take with the homie? I can't wait to take my three kids to the Big 5 in Utah. My parents had a goal to roadtrip me and my sister to all 50 states, and I can't wait to get started on that with ours.
Now that my son is becoming more interested in baseball, I really hope he grows to love the game. If that happens, I’d love to take him to the iconic big league ballparks across the country: Wrigley, Fenway, etc.
I also hope he takes to skiing like his old man has. The first time he took lessons, it didn’t go well, but he was only five at the time. I’m going to try again soon now that he’s older. It would be so much fun to take him to fun ski destinations throughout his childhood, even if it’s just the two of us.
Dillon,
I make significantly more money than most of my closest friends (like 5x). This is not an issue and doesn't affect our friendship. However, there are some things I like/want to do like go out to nice restaurants or take guy trips to dope locales, and I'd like to do it with them. My wife and I have some couples friends closer to our income but I don't like them as much and they aren't as much fun. How do I approach footing a larger % of the bill for dope experiences without it being awkward or patronizing?
Thanks Dorn.
I don’t think you can. I’m not sure I could accept such a generous offer from a friend without feeling uncomfortable. Could you?
Maybe there’s a creative way you could present the trip to them so that they think they’re covering their fair share. Example: “Hey guys, I booked two rooms and a round of golf at Pinehurst in two months. It’s my dream golf trip. I just need y’all to show up and play golf with me.” I might go for something like that.